Grief, Tapestries, and Astronauts

The following is a brief excerpt from a new Risen book in progress about grief.

   The Risen themselves once lived on the Earth, and their collective experiences have contributed to this book in your hands. The words in it arise from the feelings they experienced when they were on the Earth, and from insights they now find in their present state of existence. It is a Risen gift to assist in navigating the mysterious, stormy waters of grief. It will not reveal any secret answers to the mysteries of grief. Grief is not meant to last long enough to stay mysterious, because we are not meant to stay on this Earth forever.

Grief is a doorway; an opening that is meant to be passed through.

      Of course we seek answers. But answers typically give rise to more questions—and who needs more questions? When we achieve a way of living where we no longer feel the need to ask any more questions, we also realize that answers were never needed. This way of behavior is sometimes called “surrender.” The ultimate result of surrendering is a way of living and feeling called serenity.

      Surrender means “I am consciously putting down my weapons and getting off the battlefield.” Surrender means we are finally willing to hand our weapons over to Creator Source, which will transform them into musical instruments and other tools of positive communication.

      Our words—and the way in which we use them—can be seen to be tools or weapons. Are we using them positively or otherwise? As the light of conscious awareness is turned upon the alleged darkness, eventually it will be seen that so-called negative things are actually positive, waiting in the shadows to be revealed. This essentially means that there is really no such thing as a “bad negative.” Rather, it means there is only one power in the Universe, which we can experience in an infinite number of ways. This power is Life, for that is all there is—there is no “death”—only and simply transition from one form of life to another form.

Death is transition from one form of life to another form.

      Apparent negativities are always in the process of developing into something else—they are unfolding. When something positive is not yet fully formed we may feel it as something less-than-positive, or negative. In spite of appearances we must believe that there is something happening that is on its way to become positive, and then let the previously perceived negative experience transform into its true manifestation, or truth. This has sometimes been expressed as “Let go and let God.” Faith is the act of asserting and affirming a belief. Even if we don’t believe the belief, repeating it over and over will eventually change into a feeling of acceptance, which is faith.

Fear is faith trying to unfold.

      The idea that the negative is really an unfinished positive might not make sense, even though it’s true. It may be easy to think it’s true, but we really must come to feel that it’s true. If it doesn’t feel right, this is evidence that one has not yet surrendered to allowing oneself to fully feel. It is evidence that the positive has not yet finished forming. So surrender and let it finish.

      For example, take the feeling of regret—a feeling that arises from thinking about failed expectations in the future that have departed into the past. Choosing to remain focused on thoughts and feelings of regret will exclude your awareness from the present, causing a downward kind of feeling. However, choosing to forget about the regret—to let go of it—is to release it. This act of release will then give rise to the higher-vibrating, positive feeling of acceptance. Allowing oneself to feel the acceptance then gives rise to relief, one of the most powerful and positive feelings a human can have. This “giving rise” is actually an aspect of a Risen experience while still on the planet. The feeling acceptance is also another transformation—that of fear into faith.

      How does one forget something once it’s happened? Isn’t that denial? Yes, it is—but it is an affirmative use of denial. It is using denial instead of letting it use you. It is using denial as a way of effectively saying, “I let it go back into the nothingness from which it arose.” Untying yourself from something will set you free, like an astronaut freed to float in space. The significance of this kind of personal power—of being able to say “no” and have it unconditionally accepted by the universe—is staggering. But as long as it frightens you, you will never be a fully functioning and happy astronaut in your universe.

      If you can forget something hurtful a child once did to you, then you can forgive. This also includes your inner child. Very likely the child has already forgotten all about it and is no less the happier for it. Are you disappointed that it sounds too easy? Untie your attachment to disappointment and see what happens. If you can say “it was nothing” and believe it, then it is done.

      Think of your life as an immense tapestry, unrolling itself before you. You can’t see it all at once, nor will you ever be able to see it all, because it is never-ending. This is why the Risen ask us to accept that

All Life—which includes my life—is unfolding perfectly, no matter what.