Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Grief Transformed: Read the Chapter

A reader comments on our posting, "The Pastime of Reincarnation":
"Thank you for the information about this book, and especially thank you for the PDF of the chapter from your book on this subject. This is something that has caused me such untold suffering for the last 58 months, it is impossible to find words to describe it. It has utterly crippled me to the point that I have not even been able to function beyond getting up out of bed, and sometimes, not even able to accomplish that. When I lost my mother and dad because of cancer, never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that I would find evidence that they somehow continued to live, yet would lose them AGAIN ... PERMANENTLY ... to reincarnation. I won't go any further, but just know that the words I have written here do not even come close to describing what I have had to endure because of this.
Dearest Bob – it is with heartfelt gladness that some of our words may have brought you a certain amount of reassurance and comfort. Although the grieving never stops; it can and ought to transform into a higher, finer kind of energy. Many people avoid asking and answering the questions about reincarnation that have haunted you, caught in a grey area bounded by unrelenting grief; yet the grey area, which is where all the true colors are, contains the way in and out; the way infinitely forward – the Truth of Reality. As you say, words just do not function well to describe your feelings.

Yet why don't we see any beautiful, heavenly colors, just dismal, dismal grey? It is with our spiritual senses – sight, hearing, and feeling – that we are able to experience the sights and sounds of the spiritual dimensions. If they are not active, then either our spiritual senses are inert, still in seed form and waiting to sprout and become functional, or they are shrouded and dampened by the veils of our deep, deep sadness, held firmly in place by loneliness, abandonment, panic, worry, and especially fear. In our book, The Risen, we go into great detail about how this predicament comes about, and how to begin to re-conceptualize our thinking so that we reclaim our kingdom – the domain of our mind, wherein we reside. We reclaim it from the ego-mind. Our book has suggestions about that as well.

This dampening of the spiritual senses disables us in several ways, which you have been experiencing for the past five years – physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually. Like an increasingly expanding shadow, the darkness of the growing grief keeps us imprisoned in a kind of “frozen hell of numbness,” as is says in our book.

You need not be crippled – this is a false state of being that will keep you from moving forward, as your parents are now doing themselves - moving forward. It is also an act of unkindness to yourself, and unkindness is never necessary, especially to one’s self. Rest assured that they will never move beyond you, for they can use time differently; hence they wait while they grow, and you grow while you wait. Waiting, which takes place in the present, and which is where you and where your parents are, is a true virtue. Waiting is not patience, something that is a form of control, and initiated by fear of loss of control. Waiting is the ability to rest in time, while simultaneously moving forward, still at rest. “Forward” and “rest” are meant here as states of existence, which is another way of saying “dimensions.” The Risen loosely refer to such seemingly paradoxical states as “geographies.”

We would like to offer you another chapter, “Grief Transformed,” from our book.


At Sun Feb 05, 08:29:00 PM 2012, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hello August,

Thank you for what you have written here. And, thank you for the additional chapter from your book, I will download it. Money is something that I don't have anymore, since this happened. It's my wife that keeps us going...but barely...it's always on the verge of not being enough...so I appreciate the two chapters that you have provided. I'd also like to say that I'm very grateful for the contact link you provided. But, I admit that I'm a bit hesitant because I've already gone that route with counsellors (more than one) and it has ranged from being completely useless to near fatal. If I were ever to tell you what took place, I know without any doubt that you would understand why I say that. These people are mostly secular, so their help usually amounts to "get over it" and about how I'm failing at everything. And, of course, these people accept no possibility of life after life so their "help" always amounts to "what can you do about it anyway?". The truth is that I have gone looking for some kind of help from someone via the internet, but everywhere I looked (a couple of them I even contacted by email) I ran straight into reincarnation again, so I had to run away from it and then try myself, to overcome their "helpful" information. There isn't any way to describe this...it has been like trying to deal with four deaths (I hate that word) at the same time. First, the loss of dad, then mother...and then they died a SECOND time, permanently. I do not understand people anymore...Christians are willing to worship a God who will abandon thier own family endless suffering and torture, while others couldn't care less to ever be together with their own family again because they're reincarnated as someone else or someTHING else...or dissolved into the "ocean" of consciousness and lost their identity and personality. The fundamentalist Christians think they're special because the're saved, the others think they're special because they're "highly advanced". But it seems to me that the only thing these two groups hae in commmon is that they don't really care about anybody except themselves.

At Mon Feb 06, 09:46:00 AM 2012, Blogger August Goforth said...

Bob - Unfortunately, I do understand much of what you share about your hesitancy, and sometimes I have to undo the trauma increased or even created by a previous therapist who didn't have a compassionate clue and tried to impose their own belief systems. Perhaps such systems work for them. Your own intuition tells you that your truth is in a different form. You do not have to allow yourself to be motivated by fear and all its children, such as resentment and worry.
If you would like a copy of the book, email me an address, and I will see that you get a copy free of charge. If you prefer a pdf to download, let me know and I will send you a special link.
Sincerely, August

At Mon Feb 06, 08:59:00 PM 2012, Anonymous Lynda Lee Macken said...

I love the Authors' response to Bob - I really needed to read those words today... August, your presence on the planet is a gift to untold numbers - what a kind, gentle, loving and thoughtful soul you are... Much Love to you, Lynda Lee


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